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Hey Buddy Is everything alright???

Hey, Buddy is everything alright???

Are you Depressed???

In today’s times, many of us talk about depression. But does anyone know what depression is? or how does one get it., or what does it do? Depression has many faces. But we all have to be prepared for it.

 Depression has been a common part of everyone’s life, whether today or even over a number of years, yet I still don’t fully understand it. So, how do I explain what “it” (Depression) is to someone or to anyone who has no experience of depression in their life? How can I explain to someone what depression is? Suffering from depression can be for various reasons to name a few like the loss of one’s job, financial issues, and Failed marriages but these are just a few examples of what depression can happen to a person.  Furthermore, depression has a way of replacing your confidence with pure anxiety, self-hatred & suicidal thoughts.

Honestly, I’ve rarely been asked to explain what depression means to anyone. You can just say the word and people either turn away in fear or try to relate to console and/or fill the silence. What really, all I need is for someone to ask “How does depression affect you?”.

The scariest thing I have found about suffering from a mental health illness is the effect it has on every aspect of your life; Depression, for anyone, is another soul, taking over your mind and body. It cohabits day in and day out, in attempts to knock your confidence, and whispers insult in your ear. it starts playing games in your mind.

it’s not just what’s inside your head that messes it up. it's everything around you, may it be physical or mental, for me, suffering from depression can become debilitating as one couldn't find happiness in the little things one would enjoy doing. More often than not, depression would cause one to sit in a dark room, think about the bad things in the past, present, and even the future, and cry about it.

So! nobody was there or nobody to tell anything or console and again what was the use coz nobody neither cared nor bothered. And one can live with this; I know it is a part of any individual and grateful to merely exist – so if I were to share my life with depression then so be it.

I was told by a doctor that 'there was nothing to be depressed about and that everyone gets over it because every individual will have a great group of friends and no enemies to worry about. But two things I have learned are that over this period, there is no such thing as friends & family, they will continue as what they were, were, and will be forever an entity in life against you.

In everyone’s life, family and friends will be against you wherein they used you discourage you to an extent even drive you up the wall by ridiculing you. With this, your social life would become lesser & lesser. Leading you to cut yourself off from society, Facebook, Instagram, and other social media life.

Furthermore, the real enemy I had made was myself believing that nothing will be all right.

Depression is something that cannot be healed simply, and I wish I had been told just how easy it can be to fall back into a spiral of severe isolation and anxiety.

Everyone thinks & believes that depression is nothing more than being just Sad. The struggle comes when depression really takes over, and one forgets their strength, vitality, and the love they have for those around them. Every word, action, or passing glance is an attack. The body aches and all everyone wants to do is sleep until the pain goes away. Depression isn’t just feeling sad; if it were, it would be so much easier to deal with. Every time depression affects one, the body would just shuts down as one could hardly sleep, and feel sick, unwanted thoughts would come to one’s mind, or what we generally would say, “ We have no energy to fight the circumstances in what in we were in”.

Often and definitely, sarcastically I’ve been asked what triggers everyone to feel or be ‘sad’. I felt so humiliated that everyone didn’t have a ‘trigger’; that depression hits you or me when you least expect it, and as it comes in frequent & different disguises. As well as being physically fatigued, my depression led to paranoia, which had a huge impact on my life, causing me to fret and become severely overwhelmed, and so, the cycle continued between being paranoid, which made me panic, which made me depressed. I wish I had been told that depression isn't something to be ashamed of, as telling people I had depression was a task I still struggle to achieve.

Sadly, I’ve found that depression (as well as other mental illnesses) is romanticized, especially in the media. There really isn’t anything glamorous about suffering from depression, and this trend must be stopped before it gets out of hand. But then again who cares?

It’s so true when you hear that support is always available, whether it be from friends, families, charities, or organizations, but seeking this kind of support made me feel uncomfortable at first and it's true you will definitely feel uncomfortable, coz you will never know who are your friends and family, coz everyone will abandon you and leave you in the dark. Nobody cares nobody is bothered, that’s what happens to everyone. Even your spouse and children will abandon you.

Society has reached a junction in life wherein, there will be people who will even convince your spouse and children what kind of person of a loser you have as a spouse and a parent for you all. Aren’t I right? With this, A person might have lost their respect for society for they have no right to judge others. A person with depression will think that they may have lost authority and no respect for their decisions which might lead them to be a useless loser for a spouse and parent. Depression would make anyone feel worthless, insignificant, and burdensome, Nobody won't ask you for help, because they don't have the strength & are discouraged.

Depression isolates you, making you believe your importance matters less than those around you. Depression pushes so many people out of your life to the point where we fear forming friendships because we will face the pain of losing the people we love too much. Depression with these or current circumstances makes you feel that you should give up on life. To be honest, many have tried many times to give their lives, but we always have to start thinking of the ones we leave behind, our Family. Because they mean a lot to us.

It was important that our friends would embrace our depression rather than see it as a flaw of ours, so we have to begin openly talking about it to those around us, and by raising awareness, quite a few of my friends stepped forward to say they had been through the same or at least knew somebody who did. but then again everyone thinks depression is a joke. They tend to get fed up with the notion of what a person is going thru. They begin to turn a deaf ear to the depressed person, thereby leading the depressed person to unthinkable acts, where no one is there to be by their side. Thereby suicidal thoughts.

Now with depression, as I have mentioned earlier. No one is actually bothered about others. They just don’t care anymore. On the contrary, they will put you down more. And won’t listen to you anymore. For them, they will feel like it’s some story from some storybook which is nothing to think about.

Families fall apart & change so drastically, it’s as if the marriage doesn’t mean anything to them anymore. It’s like there is no difference between dirt and humanity anymore. The scars act as a reminder that we all may have lost some battle. Tell me is it right to give up on the person who loves you so much, or just abandon them and let them fight their battles alone, or turn your children against their Parent, or turn people or furthermore convince everyone what type of loser you have married.

Now you tell me if is it worth living for this life really needed. How does it feel that your children think that their parent is a losers? Tell me is it worth living?

By accepting one’s depression and openly discussing it with others, one shouldn’t feel ashamed anymore. People have begun to feel that living is of no use now. There’s no one for us or by our side. And with losing everything, we are just alone in this world.

Again, in the beginning, we all should realize for the first time that we aren’t alone, and mental illness is actually far more common than we’re led to believe. Depression is not a sickness. There is a point of return for the person to recover when the damage is been done. Therefore we have to be there for each other. Help, listen to & counsel.

Mental illness isn’t a trend, but it shouldn’t be taboo either.

One day & I hope one day we’ll find a common ground to find peace.

I pray to God every day that he will give us all the strength to overcome this situation before it’s already too late for all of us.

 

Anonymous 

 

Heartbreak 💔

When someone doesn't love you back, it's like your heart cracks, it breaks a little more than it was before, you give it your all, you love them whole, all just what for, because they leave at the end, they use you in the name of a friend, it's only on you they depend, but when their heart is fixed they leave you alone to bend, they leave you to bend down to pick up your pieces yourself and put them back together, it's like their heart changed from hot to cold like the weather, you doubt yourself and cry yourself to sleep, feeling worthless, hopeless, helpless, breathless, restless.

You spend time thinking about how you were there for them only so they could get better. But they leave, so you could mend your heart alone after they've left you in terror, one-sided love drives you crazy, but what's even worse is that they promise you they won't leave but they vanish when the sun comes back up after the night ends because they're done using you, so leave to look for better, not knowing you were the best they could've ever got.

Do you think their gone????????💔🤔

 

Hey!

So, today’s topic is one I hear about ALL the time from Men & Women.

Unfortunately, most men & women face this challenge, seeking help far too late, when their woman & man is already “checked out” and have been for some time when his / her mind is made up around no longer wanting sex to work or no longer wanting the relationship to work. 

Something you guys should keep in mind is that most men & women emotionally detach/decide to leave you months (or even a year or two) ahead of time. This is tough because by the time he/she’s giving you obvious (more verbal and physical rather than emotional) signs, he/she’s already made up his / her mind and it’s almost impossible for you to change his / her decision. 

One of the signs most men & women notice as more “obvious” is his / her portraying a lack of sexual interest. He / She may verbalize that he/she’s no longer attracted to you, she may passively, consistently sexually reject you, and get very “snappy” in his  / her tone regarding sex topics, etc. 

And if you’re in this situation, you need to be very aware of how you’re responding to him/her.

Pay attention to your thoughts and actions. Are they more focused on pleasing him/her? Or are they more focused on doing what’s best for the relationship?

The biggest thing to remember, during a “walking on eggshells” time when you notice  he/she’s losing sexual attraction to you:

Don’t focus on what makes him / her happy, feel most comfortable 100% of the time. 

Focus on what’s best for you and the relationship.

What I mean by this is…

 Initiate the tough, needed conversation, even if you’re afraid of “rocking the boat”. (This may not be "comfortable", but it will get you both answers/clarity).

 Set boundaries if he/she’s disrespecting you, by standing up for yourself, (even if it might piss him / her off).

 Keep doing things for your own happiness/health (even if it means you’re leaving him/her for a couple of hours at a time). 

The obsession with pleasing him or her combined with a lack of respect for yourself (letting him or her walk all over you because you’re afraid he or she’ll leave or never have sex with you again), only makes her less attracted to you.

I know this is hard but it’s the truth. When I see men or women weaken out of fear of their man or woman never having sex with them again or leaving them and turn into pleasers who are afraid to have a conversation, he or she eventually does leave them. 

When men or women remain in their power and do what’s best for themselves and their relationship (not making it about constantly pleasing him or her but doing what’s best for them both), their man or woman begins to gain respect and attraction again.

When you feel out of control in your relationship and the attraction within it, remind yourself of why you’re attractive and start acting from that place again. You can’t control how he or she feels about you, but you can control how you feel about yourself. And when you do control and seriously improve how you feel about yourself, it’s the best way to attract him or her to you once again.

If you’re looking for help with...

Improving how you feel about yourself and your attraction

Enhancing your communication skills

Becoming a better sexual partner (for yourself and your partner).

Talk to a professional and not to friends and family coz you might just end up damaging the relationship. trust me I speak from experience. 

Don't end your relationship!!!!

Byeeee and hope things work out... Will Pray for you all your families

Byeeee.....

Do Dreams or Nightmares come true!!!

 Greetings All,

After a good days work i have decided to take  some rest, and meaningfully a small nap just to ease my old but not to old bones. Like each and every doctor says we have to take some rest. But then i say rest is only when we are six feet under, i hope you know what i mean, six feet under means rest when we are dead.

So back to the topic. again after a days work when i just went to take a small nap, I to be honest have a bad habit of never lying down on the bed, i'd rather sit on the couch and rest for sometime. the moment i sat on the couch. i crashed and went in to a deep sleep, and when i mean deep sleep i really mean it. It was like byebye everybody and gone to sleep into another world. During that small nap i had the most scariest, i wouldnt say scariest but yes it was really stressful that i thought i had got a heart attack. When i got up i got up with a start and really messed up head about the dream, which led me to collapse onto the floor.

For the past few months i have been undergoing some huge stress. and i didnt know it would affect me to such an extent. So when i regained my senses, the first thing was did the dream mean anything? So again as i was curious about my dream, I decided to go on the internet, i saw somewhere it was also mentioned that, Nightmares or dreams are not real and couldnt harm or hurt us at all. Even if your dream is scary or brutal doesnt mean it will happen in your real life. Or even if it means you are a bad person it doesnt mean it will tell you to do scary things. but then again, Dreams are our dreams anything can happen.

Well back again to my life, like i said have been going thru alot of stress. Namely becoz of Job issues and to top it all up it was family issues. Its maybe becoz of that it trigged these dreams then let us find out what my dream, told me or what it would lead me to believe after a  few more lines about dreams.

Ok, when we drift to lala land, deep into our vivid different realms, i mean into deep sleep, like big snoring sleep, knocked out sleep. Yes so our minds begin to sync into a active mode and start to build stories and images that can be either unique or nonsense, prophetic or maybe sometimes to an extent even terrifying that could make us believe, that whether it could all be TRUE?

Again, we may not have any answers, and different factors cause different dreams, 

Well i think i better take a small nap, my eyes are beginning to close, like my daughter always says when she falls asleep, "Dada my head is falling" meaning in childrens lingo correctly means i m falling asleep.

Sorry after my long snooze, I've managed to come back to reality.

Like I mentioned earlier. We may never have the answers to our dreams. Some may be lucky some may not be. Because sometimes when we awake from our slumbers we forget about the dreams but some don't. Those what we say are the fortunate ones. Who remember what happened in their dreams. 

I have to be the fortunate one, I think? But yes I think am, because after having been going thru a traumatic life now with stress, I have happened to remember all my dreams, and each one of them plays a crucial role in whatever we do.

I have had two most horrific dreams and it really did say something to me. It made me jump out of my skin and simultaneously really hurt me emotionally.

I will be back soon.... 

 

Mistake!!! Never again!!!

Greetings!!!!

Mistake!!!

What is a Mistake?

What are Mistakes?

Why do we make Mistakes?

Are we prone to Mistakes?

Is it in our blood to make Mistakes?

Let us find out what,why & how Mistakes are Mistakes.

Are Mistakes done purposely or unknowingly?

Now that's the big question.

What is a Mistake?

A Mistake is miscalculated, unknowing, unfortunate, unforgiving circumstance which has happened due to some unforseen force of human nature. But then again anyone can make mistakes. Even animals too. 

Well don't forget we too are animals, we are social animals.

Mistakes can be made by anyone. We humans try not to make them. But eventually sometimes we mess up and make a mistake. And the circumstance could be very bad. 

So!!!

Is there a solution where we can't make any mistakes and avoid any penalties for the same?

Mistake!!!

A Mistake can happen anywhere. 😕 Your home 🏡 or your workplace. In your childhood or in your adulthood.

Having a Mistake to happen might be a small thing to u and to me, but when the rest of the world 🌎 sees it, it's a calamity. To be honest a calamity is to severe that we cannot acknowledge. 

We try to avoid to do mistakes in our lives. We try to be perfect,and I mean to be perfect well we all can't be perfectionists. We tend to always do a Mistake. 

Sometimes like I said we unknowingly do a Mistake. Actually when we do a Mistake.  Maybe it's destiny. Maybe it's written the stars 🌟 or it's just luck. 

Let me say this phrase where we hear always " We do learn from our mistakes". 

Yes we do learn from our mistakes. By studying where we went wrong. By understanding where we went wrong. We try to find solutions to make a stop to it. And yes sometimes we do and we don't. 

My dear readers.

Remember one thing. Mistakes are bound to happen. Again and again and again. No matter how much mistakes you do in life, there will always be one, I mean someone who will always try to put you down. Never I mean never let that person or thing put you down. Never give up. Prove to them that you are the better one. Numero Uno !  Riseup like the Phoenix. Against all odds fight 💪.  Prove that whatever you did in life is on the journey to success 🙌.  Flush out those elements, and you will be victorious. 

Believe in me, trust in me we all will be happy one day.

"WITHOUT DOING ANYMORE MISKTAKES!!!!"

Thank-you 

Hunger for Technology!!!

Greetings!!!!

I am an avid learner, or what you can say is "this guy is hungry!" In better pretext " I'm hungry!!!" Hungry not for food, but hungry for learning. Learning new technology.

Technology over the period of years has changed alot. Not for the bad but for the good. It has revolutionized or upgraded our mindset with regards, how Technology has changed. Would you like or rather stay in the dark ages or move ahead with the new futuristic age? 

Yes we all would like to progress in life, but yet again still people are yet living in the dark ages. They don't wanna Learn or again they aren't hungry for new Technology. They would rather stay back and say "enough for me this is enough, why should we learn more? " 

Few days back I have been following a series on YouTube where those guys deal with old antique stuff. And you have to believe me. A old guy walks in with a old computer it was a 'commodore 64' it was a amazing computer in the 80's. But it surely did teach us how to type programs out. Or what we say or do today is called coding. 🤔 wow 👏how much have we come so far. 

I used to use the commodore 64. it was an amazing system. We kids that time didn't have PS5 or Xbox or whatever we kids have these days. Commodore 64 was a unique piece of hardware where we really  had to learn the hard way, what computers really were that time.

And yes I was, I will and forever be hungry for Technology.

And that was the beginning!!!!

Will continue this journey soon....

Well i'm back from a short exile.

it surely has been a rollercoaster ride. Since the 80's and now into the future. i wouldn't say present, because the present has been evolving into a bright beautiful future for many of us. Some may complain, but then again some may not. we have to try to get out of the dark ages, learn with the flow, and then we can rise up from the flames like the Phoenix has done. 

We have to keep on learning, no matter whether you are young or you are too old. Education is a must. we have to give our children a decent education and exposure to future on what lies ahead. I tell my son and daughter never give up on learning. Keep on learning, watch youtube videos, see the news on new technology. athough you are young still you have to keep on learning.

I still don't understand, why some people give up!!!

Since this pandemic struck, it was devastating. schools closed and if i might, or you could say some of the young talented Einstien's might be what you say deprived of a decent good education. Everything became online classes, work from home. So finally everyone was deprived of thier education. I can't blame anyone. It's just i feel bad for what's happenning. School teacher's are stressed out. Parents are stressed out and dont let me forget our beloved children are stressed out too. 

But then again!!!

Our children did start learning. 

And they are doing or should I say really pretty well. During this pandemic. Of course they haven't become couch potatoes. But surely much advanced for thier age. Today's kids happen to know much more than we can by ourselves.

Yes I'm back.. where were we last. Oh right, where today's kids happen to know much more than us. 

Yes its very true. 

It's very true. 

Let me go a little back in time not to far back not into the dark ages, say some where in the 80's. Well I think that's fair enough. Well the 80's wasn't a total old school. That time things were different technology was in the process of development and it was definitely exposing the new world 🌎, or in better terms. Giving new life, to the world. It was like bringing a baby into the new world, and yes it was, it was really fascinating. Things started changing for the better.

Let me tell you a little bit of my childhood. Since I was a technical freak of nature that's what my friends used to call not then but now. 

It was in feb 1981 i was born. I was a very Fiesty kid. At the age of 4-5. I always had the habit where in I used to touch this and touch that. To be proper gadgets. It was a time of learning. And I used to like what's not o  the outside but what's inside that counts. Whether mechanical, electrical or for crying out loud even electronics. You name it I would take my dad's screwdriver set and open up everything. Yes definitely I had picked this trade from my father. Yes he did teach me a lot of things. It was becoz of him, I started learning about these things. 

I was given a computer and that was my first computer. It was a atari computer it was awesome I learnt how to type and play game hoorah, and I remember how my mum used to beat me at a game of pac man. Geez  she was great at it defeating me hheheheh.

Then came the commodore 64 and other absolute brute. There I learnt how to type pages after pages on the computer and then finally press enter to start again. It was awesome thats when I saw the floppy disk. As years went by and I mean many years. When I was in school  we started learning computers and it was like dBase, fox pro oh my if you see today, it's nowhere. And when I reached  college it was windows 95 it's was great 👍.  Me and my friends just run down to the computer lab and play solitaire. Minesweeper. Everything was old school. It was a fascinating time and then after college we had to get a job. Hey wait a minute my dad as promised gave me my first bike only after my graduation. But not now kids go to college with cars. OMG!!! HOW LUCKY!

I got my first phone after getting my first job in 2002 then it was in 2007 after my worst life threatening accident. I got my first laptop. 

If I recollect correctly everything was simple. Just go to school with the notebooks study and come home. Now it's sometimes go to school  without notebooks study and come home sit with the closest gadget and have fun.

That time In the 80's everything was simple not much technology. But now it's a necessity. It's a addiction. There are pros and cons. But it's a must if you wanna go with the flow and keep yourself up do date it's better. Keep on learning. 

Now with technology far advanced. Things have changed. Kids are learning things at a rapid fast rate. How the latest phones are and how they look. Laptops become ultralight compared to what I used to use. Things have just changed.everything is easy to learn. Earlier we would ask our parents, as they were there but now it's ask google or ask alexa. Hehehe

I'm not saying it's bad thing it's good but we live in a new world we can't live without technology and I mean the latest technology.

Now learning or updating 🤔oneself ain't a crime. It's a good thing. We have to keep on learning. I tell my son to keep on learning. Don't ever stop. Now that's for my son. I too haven't given up on learning I have kept onlearning and never gonna stop till I die. Because learning is a privilege, it will serve us today, it will serve us tommorow,  well it will help us in the future. For our own good. 

So always be hungry for Technology.

Takecare and stay safe.